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When There Is Life

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I once asked myself,
And God,
Are the little things enough?
When a life is in question,
When you wonder and weep,
Can the little things be justified,
And measured so deep?

Can I determine,
Ones will to live?
Whose choice is it really?
Ours or His?

The flowers he watered,
In terracotta pots,
Brought beauty
From within,
To our warm sunny spot.
The breeze of a butterfly,
Moving the air,
Casting a shadow,
Of a life,
In our prayer.

A faraway moment,
It’s hard to believe,
How we chose to spend time,
Rather than grieve.

What if it were me?
Is that really fair?
To judge someone’s life,
From my own despair?

And so I still question,
When the road becomes rough,
Is it still worth traveling?
Are the little things enough?

There came a day,
When the stems couldn’t hold.
Bright yellow petals,
Once glistened like gold.
They fell to the earth,
In the soil they rest.
Planting their seeds,
Tucked away and blessed.

The sun lights the way,
For us all to see,
Breaking my silence,
It’s hard being me.

The flowers,
Have life again.
And now,
So do I.
When there is life,
There is reason.
Here is where,
My answer lies.

By Aimi Medina 10-11-14

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If Only for a Moment

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If Only for a Moment

If only for a moment,
Whisk me back in time,
So painful,
So true,
Yet, it was Dad.
It was you.

If only for a moment,
I could rid you of the pain,
Splash color,
Many ways,
Paint over,
Stormy days.

If only for a moment,
You could speak those words once heard,
I’d listen,
I’d tell,
I’d scream,
I’d yell.

If only for a moment,
I could see you stand and tower,
Over mountains,
Over voices,
Over barriers,
Over choices.

If only for a moment,
I could take it all away,
So painful,
So true,
Yet, it was Dad.
It was you.

If only for a moment,
It doesn’t matter when,
Just to be with Dad,
My father,
Again.

By Aimi Medina 3-15-14

Is it Enough?

Is it Enough?

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Is it enough to have to wait for a family member,
To take you outside for some fresh air?

Is it enough to water and nurture a plant,
With the summer heat approaching?

Is it enough to try and mouth the words of a song,
That’s still somewhere deep within you?

Is it enough to see someone’s life through pictures,
When you can no longer be there?

How do you measure “enough?”
And when do you know when “enough” is still worth living for?

By Aimi Medina  6-2-13

It’s Okay to Dream

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It’s Okay to Dream

One blink,
Magic escape,
Unnoticed I slip away.
To a place I’ve been before,
On an imperfect day.

Ocean currents,
Waves crest,
Toes beneath the sand.
Feeling a sense of comfort,
Watching sunset from the land.

Salty air,
Blowing wind,
A familiar hand on mine.
Missing someone special,
From once upon a time.

Laughter returns,
Eyes tear.
I still remember when,
My father was my father,
Love doesn’t have to end.

Sudden blink,
Heart races,
Warmth all through my skin.
Real or just a dream?
Knowing where I’ve been.

Another chance,
Disappear,
Setting free white doves.
It’s okay to dream,
Of souls we’ve come to love.

Eyes closed,
Eyes open,
In a distant stare.
It’s okay to dream,
Dreams always take you there.

By Aimi Medina 4-20-14

Red Balloon

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Red Balloon

The red balloon rises,
Tied to a string,
Floating freely at will,
It dances and sings.

If I let go,
Will it still call my name?
Will it look around corners?
Will its world be the same?

If I let go,
Will it remember my face?
Or will the wind blow it north,
To a faraway place.

If I let go,
Will its laughter live on?
Or will it drift away giggling,
To the clouds and beyond.

The red balloon rises,
Tied to a string.
Floating freely at will,
It dances and sings.

As it falls to the earth,
To unfamiliar ground,
In the darkness,
Landing softly,
Leaving no sound.

By Aimi Medina 2-22-14

“Be Free” poem from “Being There” by A.Medina

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Be Free

Trying so hard,
With all my might,
To understand,
This course of life.

I find myself pleading,
With God,
To raise you,
Ever so gently,
Weightless,
Leaving behind,
This broken shell.

Taking,
Only He,
Can mend the pieces of you,
Of what time,
Here on earth,
Cannot.

You taught me,
Spoken language,
Needs only rhythms and patterns.
Eyes,
Speak louder than words.
Emotions,
Run deep.
Trying to share your message,
Let the truth be told.

Your illness,
A calling,
A message,
A warning,
I’m at ease.

We’ll take care of Mom,
We’ll hold her hand,
Guiding her,
Until she lets go.
Be free.

Don’t mind my selfishness,
Of missing you,
You will be with me,
Everlasting.

You’ll be,
That warm breeze,
Under a tree.
That song bird,
Off in the distance.
That squirrel,
That stops for a moment,
Rather than prancing away.
That warm feeling of comfort,
When I need my dad.

I’ll find you,
In the beauty of life.
Let go,
Embrace the light.
Be free.

By Aimi Medina 10-13-12

The poem “Be Free” is from the book, “Being There” by Aimi Medina.
To purchase or preview “Being There” in paperback on Amazon:  http://amzn.to/1lLJewt
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Being There by Aimi Medina

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“Being There”

A memoir by Aimi Medina

        “Being There” is a story written as a companion for caregivers. I take you along and share the daily ups and downs on a nineteen month journey after my father suffered a massive stroke. I am the friend who understands the emotional rollercoaster of being involved with caring for a loved one tragically left with a minimal quality of life due to an unfortunate life saving measure, a feeding tube, which prolonged the inevitable with pain, misery and heartache for all.  I am the friend who shares the deepest pain, the torturous amount of guilt, and the inner thoughts of wishing for death. I am also the friend who finds happiness in the smallest moments, shares the strength of a family who pulls together, and finds forgiveness and hope when life takes unexpected turns.

My story revolves around medical decisions that were made without explanation of possible consequences, ethical considerations, legal implications and insufficient family consultation. Through my story, medical professionals should see the necessity of communicating and including the family on decisions for the incapacitated.

I was the baby of the family and now my role had changed. I fought hard to find the inner strength to be strong when my father was weak. I brought life and beauty to him when he couldn’t see it for himself. I share stories along the way, life lessons, and the heroes I would never have met. All the while, I spoke for my father’s silence, held his hand when there was nothing more I could give, and together watched the beauty of the crape myrtle trees come to life each summer. “Being There” takes you along as it happened and shares how hospice was able to provide peace in the end – for everyone.

Aimi Medina
Aimi Medina

Guest Author

Aimi Medina was a guest author for Hospicetimes.  Read her article, “Time Matters: The Need to Improve the Planning and Timing of Transport to Hospice House.” Jan.2014 http://bit.ly/1f9WlY8

Author Spotlight: ‘Being There’, Aimi Medina, Vero Beach  – TCPalm.com (local newspaper) March 2014

“Being There” – A Companion For Caregivers, Hospice Times http://bit.ly/1kn9mT4 January 2014

Aimi Medina participated in the second #blog4care Carnival on Caring for Aging Parents. It was supported by Caring Across Generations http://caringacross.org/

Canadian Virtual Hospice featured “Being There” on their book resource list. July 2014  http://bit.ly/1tKFweW

Publishers Weekly Magazine, June 2014 edition “Being There” by Aimi Medina http://bit.ly/1lqnfvM

Confessions of a Master Caregiver featured Aimi Medina as a guest poet with her poem, “If Only for a Moment.” Sept. 2014 http://confessionsofamastercaregiver.com/2014/09/05/guest-poem-if-only-for-a-moment/  

Dailycaring gave a book review, featured “Being There” as a resource and used two donated books as a promotion for readers to  join their web site. Sept. 2014 http://dailycaring.com/?s=medina

Readers’ Favorite Review by Fiza Pathan,  5 stars. Sept. 6, 2015 Readers’ Favorite Review

Biography

Aimi Medina grew up in Coral Gables, Florida. She has been living in Vero Beach, Florida for the past fifteen years with her husband, Dave, and their two children, Drew and Jonny. She earned a Bachelor of Science degree from Florida International University in elementary education and is a certified teacher with the state of Florida. She later became certified in art. She now teaches art to students at a local elementary school. She continues to find art, in all its forms, a way to express and share the tender moments of life with all who listen.

Order “Being There”

To purchase or preview “Being There” in paperback on Amazon:  http://amzn.to/1lLJewt

Kindle edition: http://amzn.to/1sk594s